I find myself wondering about the way some Doms perceive their value and the worth of what they can give. I have noticed that there is a lot of emphasis in this community on the value of the gift of submission and almost a de-emphasis on the value of dominance. I have seen a number of
doms around me, and many online, expect and treat submissive women as if they should automatically submit to a
dom. I wonder if the
doms place so little value on what they offer that they will take ANYONE that is willing to submit to them and then maybe this is a way to find out who will actually submit.
I understand that submission is a gift but so is dominance.
Unrefined ore is of value and should never be disregarded or perceived as having no value, but the process of refining it accentuates the value greatly. Even once the ore has been refined into a precious metal to be worked, crafting it into a work of art brings a level of value to the ore that is exceptional and can vary dramatically depending on the craftsmanship of the artist. I view the D/s dynamic in very much the same way. The craftsman needs the ore to create his work of art and thus it has value. If it has already been refined then it can be of more value but if it was refined poorly then it will not be worth as much. This still doesn't mean that the craftsman should not spend his time working with it. If the craftsman specializes in gold rings he has little to no use for titanium. That doesn't mean that the titanium is of no value, it just isn't what this particular craftsman needs to make his work of art.
If a Dom knows what he does and believes it to be of value, there is no reason to accept the submission of a person merely because they are willing. Time should be taken to see if the submissive will be able to be molded into what the Doms vision is. If the submissive wishes to have this Dom create a work of art out of her, should she not be willing to prove to the Dom that she is the raw material that can be made into his vision. Is not his acceptance of the material, and the commitment to mold the raw resources into a vision of what could be, worth just as much as the gift of the resources. In the real world, the price of a gold ring is far greater than the raw gold used to create it.
I have heard a lot of people expound the virtues and worth of the gift of submission. I just wonder if these doms that are expecting all submissive women to submit to them are aware of the virtues and value of what they have to offer. The obvious question that comes out of this is "Do they have anything of virtue and value to offer?"
I found this post quite interesting--it's rare to read this particular thought process. Mostly it's all about how submission is a gift and so on.
ReplyDeleteI once wrote a post about how I personally didn't really see my submission as a gift (even though He does), and that I felt his Dominance was, in a way, a gift. It got smashed on another blog lol. Their point being how could a sub adopt that point of view.
Anyways, sorry for rambling, and I really liked your metals analogy.
Thank you for your comments lil. I have often found that my opinions are not well received but, since they seem to make a lot of sense to me, I keep them anyway. It is very nice to hear that others can see the logic in them as well.
DeleteYou have an extremely interesting perspective. I find your thought process to be extremely logical, surprising me that this POV is not more common.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comments. Although I enjoy delving into emotions and experiences, I believe in guiding my life through logic. If my thoughts and beliefs can benefit you in anyway then I am happy to have shared them :)
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