What slave training means to me

I look around on sites and I see a LOT of Dominants talking about training slaves and slaves talking about unsatisfactory training by their Dominant. Some of the things I see listed as required training or things that Dominants have had their slave trained at are questionable in my opinion. How much thought goes into training your slave for golden showers. Is there a technique on being pissed on that is so complex it requires training? How do you teach a slave spanking? I have heard of slaves being trained in spanking. Is there a highly sophisticated set of procedures involved in bending over and presenting your backside to be spanked? Maybe the problem is in what people consider requires training.

I have a tendency to look at training as something of value. An education that will benefit the slave in their life or in their ability to provide value and service to their Master. I tend to begin training in the mind and heart of the slave. The hardest thing that a slave can learn is how to learn. Very few slaves, possibly because of their submissive nature, learn how to control their own thoughts, feelings, and actions. The first thing I find is needed is to teach them how to BE submissive. Our society clutters their subconscious with all sorts of conflicting teachings that leave the slave unfocused and always second guessing what they are doing. They need to be taught to recognize thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that are not beneficial to what they are trying to accomplish and then how to deal with them in a beneficial fashion. In the process of doing this, the slave and the Master learn how the slave learns and the processes that are necessary to accomplish the transformation into being a slave. When a slave is in control of the way they think and is able to give the authority for their thoughts, beliefs, and feelings to their Master, the behavioural training can begin.

In my estimation, behavioural modification is a greatly misunderstood area of BDSM training. Many look at it as changing the physical actions that are undesired. This teaches the slave to suppress the natural tendency to act out this behaviour.  That doesn't truly modify behaviour it is behaviour suppression. To modify behaviour you need to look at the reason it is happening and change that. When you change the beliefs, motivations, and reasons that lead to a behaviour, you change the behaviour. Behaviour modification starts on the outside, focuses inwards, and then changes the outward expression of these beliefs, feelings, and desires.

This part of the training is frequently a tumultuous process to say the least. There is a lot of emotional baggage and unconscious beliefs to deal with but it is the essence of where a slave is built and trained. In my experience, if a slave is trained internally first then any external expression of that training can be expressed at will. If you ask a slave to do something that they don't know how to accomplish, they will be frustrated and feel unfulfilled. This is usually why a slave will complain about inadequate training. If you teach the slave how to learn, they can learn how to do anything that they are capable of. This is the dichotomy of slavery. Through teaching them how to surrender ALL that they are to you they are freed to become the greatest grandest version of themselves.

Once they are free of their baggage and restraints, the external training can begin. This is used to accentuate and reinforce the beliefs that have been set in place through earlier training. Rituals can be developed and protocols can be learned and practised. These are the teachings and the training that the slave craves. These are the fantasy and romantic vision that they have of their life. If all of the other restraints are gone and they are taught how to build and create what they desire, these fantasies and romance can be achieved for the rest of their lives.

Free a trapped slave and have devoted one for life.